Highly Functional and Mentally Ill: Coping Ahead

I wrote a blog post back in December 2018 Highly Functional and Mentally Ill: What You Don't Understand, besides any post about sex (go figure), this was one of my most popular blogs. In that post I wrote about hiding your condition, trying to keep it altogether with work and within relationships, how to spot … Continue reading Highly Functional and Mentally Ill: Coping Ahead

Part 2: What would I say to my 14 year old self if I could?

I talk a lot about feeling like I am frozen in time. I feel like my emotions are sometimes that of an adolescent girl. Sure, I feel like I am an adult, there is no doubt about that. But, when it comes to feeling alone, abandoned and emotional, I feel like a young teenager. I … Continue reading Part 2: What would I say to my 14 year old self if I could?

The Next 6 Months

Recently (Yes, like 5 days ago) I decided that the long distance love thing wasn't working for me. When I think about a relationship or getting to know someone, I think about doing the most normal things together but they feel like magic. Like, going to the farmer's market or after sex Netflix binge watching. … Continue reading The Next 6 Months

10 Essential Tips: Healing From Sexual Trauma

Childhood sexual abuse, rape, incest and sexual coercion and all forms of sexual trauma impact us for the rest of our lives. What people don't understand is that it isn't just our sex lives that it affected. It is not being able to trust people. It is not being able to feel joy during sex. … Continue reading 10 Essential Tips: Healing From Sexual Trauma

Parenting with PTSD: Parenting Through Fear

I have PTSD. Not the kind that most people think about. I haven't been to a war. I haven't been in a car accident. I haven't watched a loved one die in front of my eyes.  I have PTSD from sexual and relationship based trauma as well as from the abandonment I felt from being sent to boarding … Continue reading Parenting with PTSD: Parenting Through Fear

7 Statements on Early Sexual Trauma & The Impact on Adult Relationships

Before you read through the next 7 statements, make sure you read my experience with the MeToo movement I have PTSD. I was not diagnosed until February 2018. I lived with these symptoms for the better part of 10 years.  Sex is about the other person and their pleasure, only.  When you have early sexual trauma, … Continue reading 7 Statements on Early Sexual Trauma & The Impact on Adult Relationships

Silently Suffering With Mental Illness: How To Help Yourself

Mental illness is not an openly talked about topic. It is typically only talked about when you are a close friend or family member but even then, many people feel embarrassed or ashamed about their illness. I am typically an "over share-er". I will talk about almost anything with almost anyone. I tend to connect … Continue reading Silently Suffering With Mental Illness: How To Help Yourself

7 Important Steps To Take After Leaving An Abusive Relationship

  I am outspoken about abusive relationships and how easily people can find themselves in one. I have volunteered with women's shelters in the past and I would say it is a passion for me to help women (Yes I realize men can be victim's too). I like helping women to realize the relationships they … Continue reading 7 Important Steps To Take After Leaving An Abusive Relationship

#MeToo

Full disclosure, I am afraid to write this. I still somewhat blame myself. I was 13 when I met you. You were a friend of my brother. You were a close family friend with a girl I hung out with. People trusted you, people thought you were fine. But you're not. You touched me and … Continue reading #MeToo

Why You Shouldn’t Send Teens To Troubled Teen Boarding Schools

As I walked into the garage I was greeted by three people. My mother, my stepdad and an off duty police officer. “Today we are taking you to your new school” My mother said. What the actual fuck. Then, the police officer handcuffed my right hand to his left hand and we got in the … Continue reading Why You Shouldn’t Send Teens To Troubled Teen Boarding Schools